It's Christmas Eve so I will keep this short, as there is still much to do to get ready for the big day tomorrow. First, my Christmas wish.

Dear Santa: please help us pass alimony reform this year in Oregon and help all our friends around the country pass reform in their states as well.

Second: my New Year's resolution: remember to take the high road in this debate. Some may feel I have been occasionally too harsh with my words when discussing this issue. It's a very hard situation to be in and at times I have been known to lose my cool.  I am a passionate person at heart and sometimes the filter between my brain and my mouth (or my fingers, as I type) malfunctions.  I am working on that.

Here is to engaging in a calm and reasoned debate on a critical issue in 2013!

We are still here!

Watch this space for an update later today or tomorrow on the alimony reform effort in Oregon. Please email me your story or that of your loved ones who are suffering under this antiquated regime that punishes (almost always) men for supporting their families and rewards (almost always) women who refuse to support themselves post-divorce.

New Jersey, Florida, Connecticut, Oregon: these are just a few of the states that are making alimony reform happen, modeling efforts after those of Steve Hintner in Massachusettes. We will prevail.